The New Window to the Soul…
So, I have a blog. It would appear that I also have a sweetheart. We’re Facebook friends, but when I accepted his request, I put him on the friend list that doesn’t have access to this place. He doesn’t see my website field, and he doesn’t see my NetworkedBlog badge on my profile. As far he is concerned, I’m one of those normal girls that doesn’t pour her heart and soul out and publish it publicly on the web for all to see and read.
Obviously, I’m not abandoning one of the best parts of my life (blogging) for anyone. I told him about my trip to Vegas in May, I just failed to mention exactly why I was going. “There’s a convention there I want to attend” was all I gave him, and he didn’t push for more information.
I’m proud of this space, and I stand behind my posts- all of them. This a very genuine and significant part of who I am.
I’m excited to share it with him, I really am.
I’m also scared to death.
I will wait until we are breathing the same air to do it. I will sit him down at my desk, in front of my laptop, pull up this url and go cook dinner while he pokes around. There, but not over his shoulder.
Still. I fear his reaction to a three year archive of the crazy. As far as I know, he doesn’t have any equivalent data for me. Which is exactly why he doesn’t know this place yet- that would have been too unfair, on both ends- for him to have access to all of this without my having the same information.
So this is the part where you tell me how you “came out” as a blogger to your loved ones, and how they took it, and any other thoughts you might have about the situation, especially including any reassurance you’d like to give me that he will like me more and not less once he’s poked through my archives…
Go.
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Oh. Um…
Yeah….
I haven’t done that yet.
Obviously, Mrs. Apron knows, but she’s been sworn to secrecy. Honestly. There was blood.
Good luck with that, though!
Mr. Apron´s last blog ..I Like Sad Songs
You’re going to Vegas?! I had no idea! Yay!
And of course, you already know what happened when I “came out.” Seeing as it was jsut…last week! But everything is fine. Of course, I only told two friends about it and asked them to not share my URL. I don’t ever plan on making my blog 100% obvious.
StaceyParadise´s last blog ..On going public, the Quarterlife Crisis, and losing my VLOG virginity
LOL i haven’t done that either. Not sure why, I just haven’t seen any reason to announce it and I guess no one around me considers that I might do it.
When i get my tat (which will become logo for blog) then I guess I will be announcing it left and right. I am guessing that THAT would not be a good way for you to do it.
Angela´s last blog ..Rambling Mondays Anyone?
For the foreseeable future, I have the double life, too. There are things teen daughters don’t need to see/know. My Dad would be livid. My mom would be confused. That being said, Mr. POSSLQ is usually right in the same room when I blog. So, I wish I had advice to give but, I don’t.
MsDarkstar´s last blog ..Non-Coffeehouse Sunday Post (17)
I haven’t told anyone, not one soul about my blog and never plan on telling them. I am single now but even if I were to enter into a relationship, I wouldn’t share my blog with my significant other. I may start a new blog and share the new posts with them, but definitely not my past – but that’s just me.
As for sharing your blog with your sweetheart – I am not sure at what stage your relationship is right now but I would wait a little bit before showing him your blog otherwise it may be too much too soon – just an opinion, not advice.
Miss Over Thinker´s last blog ..It is what it is
I think you’re wise to wait a bit—makes the most sense to me. Also, I had an old blog and waited to reveal it ’til I’d told my boyfriend all the juicy stuff…ya know, better to hear it from me than read about it, blah blah blah.
I do wish to hear more about this Sweetheart, though
(blush) I haven’t told anyone either. I let slip to my DIL and I know she keeps tabs on my blog, but we rarely discuss it, and I don’t think she’s told anyone else about it. I’ve recently mentioned to several friends and relatives that I have a blog but (imagine!) no one has even asked how to find it . . . what, I’m not the center of the universe? How rude.
gail´s last blog ..A perfect day for tea
Cat, you have a wonderful blog, some of the best writing on the internet. We love that you pour your heart and soul out in such eloquent bursts it takes our breath away. But you know what? People are more important than words, and leading double lives sucks. So maybe the answer isn’t even to show him the blog, maybe the answer is to delete it all and maybe start new someday, from a fresh perspective. We will miss you, but this blog isn’t about us, it’s about you. I have an old blog that I purged of all references of another and it still lingers on the internet like a bad stink, a pale shadow of what it was, merely because it has so many of my pictures on it. Trust me, I have had a house burn to the ground, just let things go if they are holding you back – but write a note to your friends first, eh?
steve´s last blog ..A Word About the Neighbors . . .
What was weird for me was when The Mister’s family started reading my blog. My own family doesn’t even read it (though not because I kept it a secret from them). Turns out, they love it and are always telling me stories so I can blog about them.
The Mister rarely takes issue with the things that I blog about. But we were already together when I started my blog, so I’m not much help there.
Kim´s last blog ..Grant Me Impatience
Um yeah. Wait.
I often forget that my oldest sister (The Minister’s Wife) reads my blog until I get emails from her after I’ve spewed something.
But hey, I don’t think ANYTHING you’ve blogged about since I’ve known you online has ever been enough to chase off a good man.
And a man who’d run? Won’t stick anyway.
But there is the whole thing about sharing too much too soon. Waiting is good.
Hang in there.
Jennifer McKenzie´s last blog ..Welcome
The “crazy” is your charm. You aren’t CRAZY crazy. Just Cat crazy
And it’s what makes you unique, and wonderful and amazing. HE would be crazy to let you go. This blog is beautiful and true. 
Good luck with the new beau. I wish you all the happiness in the world. It’s your time
It’s nuts to think that knowing the window to the soul these days is done by opening your soul in a new window. But if he’s smart about it, he’ll realize that bloggers are just a type of person that exist among the general population — but the explanation is actually quite simple:
It’s an outlet. For life. Everyone has these. And maybe with that bit of information, he’ll share his outlets with you?
nicopolitan´s last blog ..It’s Time To Get Ill
i don’t remember how i told ryan. i remember there was little ceremony. i might have mentioned it… yes, i know i did… the night we met. before i had the forethought to realize i might become interested in spending more time with him. it went a little like this:
“YOU DON’T HAVE A COMPUTER?! BUT HOW DO YOU BLAAAAAWWWWWG?!
Yeah. There was never any escaping that one.
But I know he knows and I know he knows exactly where to find it, so I don’t write anything I don’t want him to see. He’s also given the official okay to write about him with a few stipulations… so it’s actually worked out great for me.
I don’t think he’s ever actually looked at it though. I don’t really think he wants to very badly.
courtney´s last blog ..The Boy, Revisited
I shared my blog with 2 friends – one of them came and read a bit, the other never even bothered. No one in my family knows about it at all.
Tricia´s last blog ..If you want God to laugh at you make some plans…
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