Comments on: Fate, Free Will, Love and Two Headed Humans http://cattails.me/2010/03/fate-free-will-love-and-two-headed-humans/ the crazy stops here...every fifteen minutes Tue, 07 Feb 2012 19:32:24 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2 By: On marriage and pet peeves http://cattails.me/2010/03/fate-free-will-love-and-two-headed-humans/comment-page-1/#comment-5253 On marriage and pet peeves Fri, 22 Apr 2011 15:21:35 +0000 http://cattails.me/?p=1942#comment-5253 [...] lovely blogger I know, Cat, questioned the existence of soul mates.  I commented saying that I don’t believe in them.  I [...] [...] lovely blogger I know, Cat, questioned the existence of soul mates.  I commented saying that I don’t believe in them.  I [...]

]]> By: Angela http://cattails.me/2010/03/fate-free-will-love-and-two-headed-humans/comment-page-1/#comment-3154 Angela Sun, 14 Mar 2010 17:53:50 +0000 http://cattails.me/?p=1942#comment-3154 When I was a young girl (like I am really all that old now!) I beleived in soul mates. But as time went on and I dealt with my fair share of assholes I came to a realization. I now beleive that we do have ONE soul mate but not necessarily in a marital bliss sort of way. There is going to only be ONE person in our lives that we completely love and 100% resonate with. I have already met and lost that person, my grandmother. There will never be anyone that I can love as completely or in the same nature as I did with that woman. And even though I have already met and lost her, I am still capable of loving another, just not the same way. And I think that is where we get confused. Love isn't some sort of category. How I love my children isn't how I will love another family member or significant other. Even within my own children, the love is different. At the same time it doesn't make one type of love lesser or better than another. Just different. And with this love there will be a time to say goodbye and suffer the loss. Whether through death or just departure in the living world, it's necessary. Love brings out the best side of us but also forces us to look deeper at ourselves. Only through love (even if it's just loving ourselves) can we truly see our faults. Love can make us a better person. And with the loss of love is the test on our endurance. The ability to see how we cope, if we survive it, and if we learn from it. MsDarkstar - have you considered the possibility that you made those people better through your involvement with them? it doesn't sound so much like the problem is you, sounds more like you contributed so much to them that they grew. When you love a flower and care for it, what happens? Think of them as that flower and take pride that you contribute to their happiness. .-= Angela´s last blog ..<a href="http://thepaganmomblog.com/2010/03/14/its-finally-completed-crafty-sunday/" rel="nofollow">It’s Finally Completed – Crafty Sunday</a> =-. When I was a young girl (like I am really all that old now!) I beleived in soul mates. But as time went on and I dealt with my fair share of assholes I came to a realization. I now beleive that we do have ONE soul mate but not necessarily in a marital bliss sort of way. There is going to only be ONE person in our lives that we completely love and 100% resonate with. I have already met and lost that person, my grandmother. There will never be anyone that I can love as completely or in the same nature as I did with that woman. And even though I have already met and lost her, I am still capable of loving another, just not the same way. And I think that is where we get confused. Love isn’t some sort of category. How I love my children isn’t how I will love another family member or significant other. Even within my own children, the love is different. At the same time it doesn’t make one type of love lesser or better than another. Just different. And with this love there will be a time to say goodbye and suffer the loss. Whether through death or just departure in the living world, it’s necessary. Love brings out the best side of us but also forces us to look deeper at ourselves. Only through love (even if it’s just loving ourselves) can we truly see our faults. Love can make us a better person. And with the loss of love is the test on our endurance. The ability to see how we cope, if we survive it, and if we learn from it.

MsDarkstar – have you considered the possibility that you made those people better through your involvement with them? it doesn’t sound so much like the problem is you, sounds more like you contributed so much to them that they grew. When you love a flower and care for it, what happens? Think of them as that flower and take pride that you contribute to their happiness.
.-= Angela´s last blog ..It’s Finally Completed – Crafty Sunday =-.

]]> By: Molly http://cattails.me/2010/03/fate-free-will-love-and-two-headed-humans/comment-page-1/#comment-3151 Molly Fri, 12 Mar 2010 19:10:51 +0000 http://cattails.me/?p=1942#comment-3151 I've always believed in soul mates in the sense that there are multiple people who help you evolve throughout life. Yes, they may not be forever, but they've taught you something along the way. You, plural speaking, of course :) .-= Molly´s last blog ..<a href="http://dillydallylollygagger.blogspot.com/2010/02/slacker-sunday-revisited.html" rel="nofollow">slacker sunday: revisited.</a> =-. I’ve always believed in soul mates in the sense that there are multiple people who help you evolve throughout life. Yes, they may not be forever, but they’ve taught you something along the way. You, plural speaking, of course :)
.-= Molly´s last blog ..slacker sunday: revisited. =-.

]]> By: On marriage and pet peeves « Chasing Paradise http://cattails.me/2010/03/fate-free-will-love-and-two-headed-humans/comment-page-1/#comment-3144 On marriage and pet peeves « Chasing Paradise Wed, 10 Mar 2010 19:05:04 +0000 http://cattails.me/?p=1942#comment-3144 [...] lovely blogger I know, Cat, questioned the existence of soul mates.  I commented saying that I don’t believe in them.  I [...] [...] lovely blogger I know, Cat, questioned the existence of soul mates.  I commented saying that I don’t believe in them.  I [...]

]]> By: emma http://cattails.me/2010/03/fate-free-will-love-and-two-headed-humans/comment-page-1/#comment-3143 emma Wed, 10 Mar 2010 18:53:59 +0000 http://cattails.me/?p=1942#comment-3143 If you ever get tired of cleaning your house, will please come on over and clean mine. I don't think I even know what to do with a mop, as my floors can attest. I've come to believe I will never know a damn thing. It's kinda liberating. .-= emma´s last blog ..<a href="http://pleasurenotes.com/blooming-mondays-march-08-2010/" rel="nofollow">Blooming Mondays: March 08, 2010</a> =-. If you ever get tired of cleaning your house, will please come on over and clean mine. I don’t think I even know what to do with a mop, as my floors can attest.

I’ve come to believe I will never know a damn thing. It’s kinda liberating.
.-= emma´s last blog ..Blooming Mondays: March 08, 2010 =-.

]]> By: Auntie http://cattails.me/2010/03/fate-free-will-love-and-two-headed-humans/comment-page-1/#comment-3142 Auntie Wed, 10 Mar 2010 16:30:59 +0000 http://cattails.me/?p=1942#comment-3142 I was 21 and he was 19 - we met at a graduation party in June. . . a simple look back, a simple kiss, a simple thank you note for a nice evening, a simple follow up call for the thank you note . . . we started dating in September that year (after I moved back), we were engaged in November and married the following May . . . we will celebrate our 23rd wedding anniversary this year. It's not that we are soul mates, it's not that we are "alike" or "complete opposites" - it's that where I end he begins and where he ends I begin - for 23 years now, I make the coffee in the morning and he pours it. I think your heart will let your head know when its love ;-) I was 21 and he was 19 – we met at a graduation party in June. . . a simple look back, a simple kiss, a simple thank you note for a nice evening, a simple follow up call for the thank you note . . . we started dating in September that year (after I moved back), we were engaged in November and married the following May . . . we will celebrate our 23rd wedding anniversary this year. It’s not that we are soul mates, it’s not that we are “alike” or “complete opposites” – it’s that where I end he begins and where he ends I begin – for 23 years now, I make the coffee in the morning and he pours it.

I think your heart will let your head know when its love ;-)

]]> By: MsDarkstar http://cattails.me/2010/03/fate-free-will-love-and-two-headed-humans/comment-page-1/#comment-3141 MsDarkstar Tue, 09 Mar 2010 21:13:02 +0000 http://cattails.me/?p=1942#comment-3141 After three spectacular failures (and many more fizzling failures) in the arena of Love I have come to the conclusion that it is far better for me to be uncoupled. 2 of the 3 have gone on to very happy, successful relationships after me, so... the problem wasn't THEM. I don't feel incomplete. I *DO* feel "fatally flawed". And I definitely consider myself "damaged goods". Wish I had some words of wisdom but, honestly, I've got nothing but sincerest wishes that YOU will find your "happily ever after". .-= MsDarkstar´s last blog ..<a href="http://msdarkstar.blogspot.com/2010/03/screws-fall-out-all-time-world-is.html" rel="nofollow">Screws fall out all the time, the world is an imperfect place...(3)</a> =-. After three spectacular failures (and many more fizzling failures) in the arena of Love I have come to the conclusion that it is far better for me to be uncoupled. 2 of the 3 have gone on to very happy, successful relationships after me, so… the problem wasn’t THEM.

I don’t feel incomplete. I *DO* feel “fatally flawed”. And I definitely consider myself “damaged goods”.

Wish I had some words of wisdom but, honestly, I’ve got nothing but sincerest wishes that YOU will find your “happily ever after”.
.-= MsDarkstar´s last blog ..Screws fall out all the time, the world is an imperfect place…(3) =-.

]]> By: StaceyParadise http://cattails.me/2010/03/fate-free-will-love-and-two-headed-humans/comment-page-1/#comment-3140 StaceyParadise Tue, 09 Mar 2010 21:07:04 +0000 http://cattails.me/?p=1942#comment-3140 As someone who is recently married, I think I'm supposed to say that I believe in soul mates. Only, I don't. Yes, I love my husband - more than anyone else on the planet, save myself. Do I believe he's the only one in the world that would have loved me or made me happy? Absolutely not. But he's the one I chose, because I like who he is, so much. .-= StaceyParadise´s last blog ..<a href="http://chasingparadise.wordpress.com/2010/03/03/vegas-vegas-vegas-also-im-awkward/" rel="nofollow">Vegas Vegas Vegas (Also, I’m awkward.)</a> =-. As someone who is recently married, I think I’m supposed to say that I believe in soul mates. Only, I don’t. Yes, I love my husband – more than anyone else on the planet, save myself. Do I believe he’s the only one in the world that would have loved me or made me happy? Absolutely not. But he’s the one I chose, because I like who he is, so much.
.-= StaceyParadise´s last blog ..Vegas Vegas Vegas (Also, I’m awkward.) =-.

]]> By: Mr. Apron http://cattails.me/2010/03/fate-free-will-love-and-two-headed-humans/comment-page-1/#comment-3139 Mr. Apron Tue, 09 Mar 2010 20:40:29 +0000 http://cattails.me/?p=1942#comment-3139 Is it wrong that my first reaction after reading this post was being jealous of you that you mop your hardwood floors? What does that say about me? I am not so sure about free will anymore. I don't think there was any way, any possible way I could have met my wife and not fallen in love with her. The meeting was very much up to chance, but the falling in love was rather mandatory. I'm very happy to be the first commentor on this particular post. I wish I knew if I was whole or not, though. But, whole or not, I'm always happy to be first. .-= Mr. Apron´s last blog ..<a href="http://mymasonicapron.blogspot.com/2010/03/cake-up-my-ass.html" rel="nofollow">The Cake Up My Ass</a> =-. Is it wrong that my first reaction after reading this post was being jealous of you that you mop your hardwood floors?

What does that say about me?

I am not so sure about free will anymore. I don’t think there was any way, any possible way I could have met my wife and not fallen in love with her. The meeting was very much up to chance, but the falling in love was rather mandatory.

I’m very happy to be the first commentor on this particular post. I wish I knew if I was whole or not, though. But, whole or not, I’m always happy to be first.
.-= Mr. Apron´s last blog ..The Cake Up My Ass =-.

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