Unniversary
Today would have been our tenth wedding anniversary. The traditional gift for a decade of marriage is aluminum or tin; a symbol of how a successful marriage must be flexible enough to bend without breaking. Oh, the irony.
Still, I couldn’t let the day go by without an acknowledgment of what was, of what is no more, of what will never be. I seriously considered it, particularly in the face of my current circumstances, but I decided that this was an important message and an appropriate day to share it with you.
When we were still just dating you told me that if things didn’t work out between us, you at least wanted to know that we learned something from each other. That we would both be better people for having shared our time together.
So, today, on our first Unnversary, I would like to tell you that I’m a better person for having known, loved and lost you. Over the last ten years, I’ve learned too much about myself and the world to list here, and you deserve some credit for the woman I’ve become. Thank you.
What do you say when it’s over?
I don’t know if I should say anything at all
One day we’re rollin’ in the clover
Next thing you know we take the fall
Still, I think about the years since I first met you
And the way it might have been without you here
And I don’t know if words from me can still upset you
But I’ve just gotta make this memory stand clear
I know I’m leavin’ here a better man
For knowin’ you this way
Things I couldn’t do before, now I think I can
And I’m leavin here a better man
4 comments
this post just made me well up with tears. my high school/college sweetheart saw me through the toughest years of my life and i came out on the other side better for it and he did too. i’m married now – but i still appreciate the way he helped shape who i am. we were together for 7 years. he was my best friend – and at times, my only real friend. i am happily married now but i totally understand the bitter sweet taste of moving on!
i love your writing.
Love,
m
PS: thank you for your sweet comment the other week. it means a lot to me. i know you understand. xoxox
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There is so much to be said for the positivity of your attitude. No good comes from ignoring the unpleasant things in life, or dwelling on the bad, but to accept them and take the lesson and the improvements, that is the only way to go. You expressed that beautifully.
.-= Dani´s last blog ..TMI Thursday: When you’ve not got a story of your own just borrow a dear friend’s… =-.
I found my way over here from Dani’s blog, and as a nearly-divorced 27 y.o. coming up on the first anniversary of her walking out on me, I took this post to heart. We are the sum of our experiences, good or bad they make us who we are. Only way to go is forward.
Oh, how I would like to believe that in some small way any of my exes are better off for having known me. With one exception, I do believe I am a better person for having known them.
Excuse me now… I believe I’ve sprung a leak. (Love you much!)
.-= MsDarkstar´s last blog ..I should be in bed… =-.
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